Some Women Suffer from Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome
Dr. David Goldmeier, in a report in the International Journal of STD & AIDS, has described a 'disorder' among some women that causes constant sexual arousal. The malady is called persistent sexual arousal syndrome (PSAS).
“Persistent sexual arousal syndrome occurs when a woman becomes involuntarily aroused for extended periods of time in the absence of sexual desire,” said Dr. Goldmeier. He says the condition can be very distressing and embarrassing for women.
Little is known about how wide spread the problem is or the best treatments for it. Some women report symptoms when they stop taking antidepressants known as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors. More research is needed to understand the disorder.
these women caught horny from men. You guys are such a bunch of deprived pervs. You probably sit at home and pray this will become an epidemic, keep dreaming. Just learn how to sing one love song and you will have a girlfriend in no time. It's not that difficult.
That is SO not true! Ask most women what turns them on. It's thoughfulness, kindness, etc. Not making lewd comments, catcalls and grinding yourself up against her. Use the head on your shoulders instead of the one between your legs. Don't push sex, or try to make that the ultimate goal. If you make sincere non-sexually related compliments on how beautiful she is to you, how much she means to you (not just what she can do for you sexually), and put some real thought and caring into her (and not just how fast can you satisfy your raging hard on).
It gets so OLD that men are just all about sex and that's what they think is a woman's only purpose is. A true woman won't care if you have a fat wallet or not. Men tend to make women feel like sex objects instead of WOMEN - you know real people with feelings and emotions. But then again, not many men know much about that sort of thing. True romance (not grabbing a boob or smacking an ass) is what gets a woman. Make dinner for her, if you can't sing then have someone serenade her at your place or a restaurant! and I don't mean just one time with one goal in mind (in bed). Write her a poem or just a lovely note to tell her how you feel, just hold her in your arms without expecting or asking for sex. I know, it involves thinking and work...but if you want to make a woman appreciate you and truely desire you - it takes more than what porno's or penthouse letters display (no matter how much you want to believe that those are true to life). How many 1-900 numbers are there for women?
I'd like to think I'm not a total clutz when it comes to females. Afterall, I went out with one for 6 years. And I don't regret the time lost, because we had good times together. Most people don't get that far with their high school significant other. So I'm kind of lucky.
But in the end she dumped me for someone more well-off in the financial department. So whatever.
then a fat wallet is all you will need. If you are looking for love, learn how to sing, recite poetry or just stare into her eyes and reveal your heart, that will melt hers.
@notalent you have some talent. If I wasn’t already engaged…
If you are making a sarcastic comment, then it's usually best to make some sort of indication that you are. Reading typed words a message can be interpreted several ways. I was merely responding to you as if you had meant it SERIOUSLY. It was also in response to all the other male comments on here (as well as backing up what Valk was saying). I should have addressed it to all but didn't. So I was paying attention to you r post as well as others. You say you were making hte old cliche...well I was also doing the same in the catcall lewd comment griding comment. It's rare to find a man not out just to grafity himself (at least that's the way it was when I was dating).
I think what attracts most people is at least half a brain and half a personality (give or take) and decent sexual prowess. These are the things I go for, and despite my strictly non-monogamous tendencies, my last relationship was my shortest ever at four months (and I hate that mushy romantic crap). People talk about a fat wallet being necessary, but I've never seen the truth in such comments. The people you hook with that kind of strategy, complete with the formal (read: compulsory) gift-giving and other standard BS, are the kind of people you will never stop complaining about. If you do not have big money, a person of substance will not care as long as you can satisfy their other needs. Go with a nice, traditional materialist if you are really just looking for a nice stable ball and chain.
As far as the issue goes, this does sound like something that would drive the victim nuts, and anyone around her, too. Always ready but never interested...and probably pretty annoyed about it.
It was just a bitter comment pertaining to a situation that *I* recently went through. Just... picture a silhoutte of a disgruntled 21 year old male, grumbling that sentence to himself, thinking about the last 6 years of his life having gone down the drain. =P
I quote, "I just cracked a joke about the old cliche about female gold-diggers.". So were you being serious? joking/sarcastic? or bitter? All I'm trying to do is understand what tone you said that phrase in. I wasn't going off on YOU but on the stereotype of most men that *I* have in general.
I can understand that you are bitter, you have every right to be. It's not my place to butt in on your presonal relationships. But to be hurt, bitter, angry, etc is totally understandable. As I think most people would be in your situation.
I will continue to read your posts, as I have no choice to what you respond to. But from now on, as you wish, I will not respond.
It helps if you can play the guitar and sing though... but if you're only going to play or sing, go with play. I've had the best success with just playing songs. It's easier, and you can half ass it and still sound good.
I was joking in the sense that NOT all women are like that. They don't ALL care about their husbands financial status. But I was being bitter in the sense that... my comment was true for ME. And lastly, I was being cliche in that, because I went through something like that, I would automatically generalize all women as the same, even though I know good and well it's not true.
Also, I don't consider sarcasm and joking the same thing. That's why I didn't understand why you said that... Sarcasm is more of an *sshole language. And a joke is funny. But I never claimed to I had a broad view on life =P
You can continue replying all you want. I was an ass for that one.
You're right, and the guitar playing does help. ...
But then eventually she gets hungry. Or wants something nice... or gets pissed because you would rather not go outside and smoke a cigarette with the rest of those motherf-
... There I go again. I can't keep my personal life out of this. *sigh.*
i'm an accomplished painter, a published poet, and a good cook. you can say women like those things, but in reality i've been told i'm TOO good. between me and some good-looking moron who treats women like crap i'll let you take a guess on who gets more chicks.
I never really understood it either. Why are so many girls so attracted to a guy that's mean to them? Showering other guys with compliments like, "Oh you'd be such a good boyfriend. You're just an all-round good guy, etc. etc." and then continue dating some drunken idiot. I've seen more of these relationships than any other.
Is it because the girl doesn't feel she's conquered the guy so she sticks around in hopes to tame him? I have no idea. Not surprisingly, I've been told to "just be an *sshole"... by both girls and guys. It's an individual basis thing, I hope. But it's just all to prevalent.
@PBoxter I find that most "nymphomaniacs" always have some father trouble somewhere. Either not having one... or not being raised by one correctly. Meh, it's all about how you grow up... what kind of values are instilled, etc.
Dayron - Not a problem. I'm sorry if I came across the wrong way. LoL. I'm not very good at putting into words what I want to say. My family has a very odd definition of sense of humor (among other things...).
MOC - There are a lot of women who also feel that way. But it is nice to be appreciated or shown caring in ways other than just sex in most cases, romantic mushy or other ways.
Nymphomania is more a psychological disorder. PSAS is more a physiological disorder.
To put it into context, all guys get erections on occasion that don't necessarily correlate to a desire to have sex. Your lil buddy is just standing up to say “hi”. Tends to happen to younger males more frequently, but can happen to anyone.
Now imagine if he was up saying “hi” persistently, hours on end. For no reason. Like you popped a bottle of Viagra. That’s the equivalent of PSAS in afflicted women. It has very little to do with sexual desire, and if anything intimacy is a turn-off because the genital area is so over-stimulated that intimacy can be a painful experience.
Ever have it happen right before you're suppose to give some presentation. Or just anything where you had to stand and speak to the class?
...Odd. It always felt like the nervousness of it all enhanced my... friend. This is way too much information for anyone to know about me. But whatever. You uh... only... live... once? Bah.
dumbed you after 6 years for another guy, that gotta hurt bad! i had to break up with my college gf after almost 4 years due to some issues, it hurted like $h|T. well then i found someone else after a couple of months, she's pretty cool, reminds me alot about the last one, and now when i look at it, all those years were worth the time, life goes on...and today i'm gonna go apply for a job!!! wish me luck! =D
Dr. Flashby assures me that he is capable of treating all ailments pertaining to said malady.
Just try his new patented 'Rampaging Balls Creme' on your beloved and you'll find yourself in bliss!
Just send three greenback dollars and a naughty photograph to his office in Humdingery, UK Box 25 and you'll find the problem of persistent pleasuring possibly placated.
Its a universal thing, no matter our culture, race, creed or colour we never think we're getting enough sex.
<thumbs up> or... thumbs down
I'm currently on a ban for hissing at my future mother in law and sneaking off to play world of warcraft when i should have been watching a holiday slide show.
It'd be like a guy constantly having an erection at the most inaapropriate times. I couldn't sit if I had it, nd it'd be uncomfortable, and there would be no pleasure in it.
I'm never going off meds if this is what happens...
vanillaskye "It'd be like a guy constantly having an erection at the most inappropriate times." aahh isnt that what happens now? In the car, school, and funerals. jk
funkman - lol. and all guys are sexist, shallow pigs with no capacity for emotion or true feelings :) j/k
vanilla - better not wear jeans or other tight pants, that seam in the middle could set it off as well. Forget ummm...bathroom related female maintenance (i know, gross), annual medical visits, etc.
singing a love song wont get you anything, its having a singing voice. <deleted by admin> LOL reciting a love poem will get you nothing but ugly girls.
"LOL reciting a love poem will get you nothing but ugly girls."
depends on the quality of the poem. you also have to have a pre-existing relationship with the girl for poetry to work. you can't just go up to a random girl and recite a love poem or she'll think you're creepy. music is better at breaking the ice that way. poetry is better at maintaining the relationship.
why did this thread turn into a dear abby column so fast?
Yeah. It still hurts like "AHH". And I can't seem to just stop thinking about it. It's been about 5 months now, and even last night I had this totally lucide dream featuring her, and, you guessed it, HIM. We're all just hanging out in the dream, and I'm trying to play it cool and just accept she's with him.
I think what bugs me most though, is that he smokes crack. Or has many times. She doesn't know though... wouldn't believe me if I told her.
